Tuesday, March 24, 2009

It's Over

In a screaming match today, Red and I ended our discipline arrangement. Or rather, perhaps, we acknowledged that it was already over. I'm not sure the difference matters, if there is one.

I don't know what this means for me, for Red, or for this blog. I'm kind of a mess right now and I'm trying not to think too much about anything. It's just easier not to think if I don't have to.


Jigsaw Analogy said...


take the time you need to take care of yourself. if it's not too painful, maybe it would help to keep writing somewhere, or maybe not. for me, i've found that it can sometimes help to talk about it with people who understand. on the other hand, it can *also* help to just shut things down for a little bit.

either way, if you want to write, i'll read (you can also email me through ttwd if you don't want to blog)

Hermione said...


I'm so sorry things have gone wrong between the two of you. Perhaps after you have both had time to think and talk, you can sort this out.

If you feel like writing, I'm sure there are many of us who will be glad to hear from you again.


Sara said...


I hope by now things have settled some, that you and Red are talking things through. Marriage is just damn hard sometimes!

I'm thinking of you, Sara

Vivian said...

Dear Rose,

I dropped by to let you know about my new ebook, but read your latest post and wanted to say how sorry I am.

As you know if you've been following The Disciplined Feminist, I've been there not once, not twice, but three times! I know how hard it it to watch something you want so badly implode -- especially when it was probably your idea in the first place!

Anyway, now I actually feel doubly inclined to let you know about my book. When you're ready to try again -- with Red or with someone else -- "How to Get the Spanking You Want" may help guide you over the rough spots. It's at www.HowtoGetaSpanking.com, if and when you're ready.

I mention it not to be crass, but because I wrote it as a resource to help people navigate the challenging waters of DD -- and it sounds like you're in the rough rapids just now!


PS -- If you want to "talk," please email me at Vivian@TheDisciplinedFeminist.com. I'll help in any way I can.