Tuesday, May 27, 2008

I'm in a book

I'm in a book. I can't believe I forgot to mention that. It's called Being Virtual, by Davey Winder.

A while ago, maybe a year or so ago, someone posted on ASSville about their friend who was writing a book, who was interested in interviewing people from the group. So, I contacted Mr. Winder and ended up exchanging emails with him for a while. I was under the impression that there would be more spankos in the book, but I'm half way through reading it, and so far, I'm the only one.

I had a panicky moment when I realized that the book had been released. Contacting Mr. Winder was totally out of character for me. Although I insisted that he use a pseudonym for me in the book, I still felt like I outted myself to the world. Not to mention, I gave him a TON of personal information. I had completely trusted him to not hurt me... not something that I do easily.

But it paid off. Mr. Winder handled my portion of the story, as well as all the other stories that I've read so far, with grace, insight, and compassion. He didn't make me look like a twisted pervert. He even made me look at myself a bit differently, more gently.

He also made me realize how incredibly lucky I am to have an online community like this... The other bloggers and forum members with whom I established acquaintances have given me a great deal of comfort. You've all helped me feel like a "normal" person. You've helped me to see that I'm not alone in a world that tends to ignore people like me... I'm an introvert, an abuse survivor, a sexual deviant (for lack of a better term)... I don't easily make friends. I don't easily trust people.

So, thank you, to all of you who have reached out and made contact with me. It means more than you know.


Hermione said...

Rose, of course you're normal! At least, as normal as anyone can be. Nobody is without some quirk or 'feature' that makes him or her unique.

How exciting to be in a book. I'm sure no one will actually recognize you. And if they're reading the book, they're probably spankos too.

I agree with you, this community we have built together is really the greatest.


Anonymous said...

Rose, I agree with Hermione, "normal" is truly a misnomer anyway. There are degrees of neurosis, shades of mental health. Inside, there is more commonality than difference.

"He even made me look at myself a bit differently, more gently."

Wow, something we all need to strive towards!

This cyber community is a really very nice one, and I am glad to be part of it too.